Our last post was not meant to “bash” guys. It was meant to be a satirical critique of the stereotypical douchebag that far too many girls are familiar with (which, we emphasize, is NOT all guys). On the flip side, we recognize that there are plenty of girls who act in similarly inappropriate/annoying ways and do, in fact, “use” guys as a free drink coupon and take advantage of them (emotionally, physically, etc.). We obviously wrote about it from a girl’s perspective because we are, in fact, girls. I will be the first to say that there are some really amazing guys out there that I’ve gone out with that have been respectful, kind, and have been totally okay with my request to split the bill. We also have plenty of guy friends that are some of the absolute best humans we know.
We would also like to emphasize that there are also a lot of girls out there who act in equally douchebag-esque ways. A guy could easily write a comedy post about that and we would probably think it was hilarious. I actually tend to trust some guys more than girls because I have seen first-hand how mean and backbiting some of them can be. And to all of the guys who have to deal with those girls, I am quite sorry. Also, I will be the first to say that I totally used to let guys buy me drinks/food. Recently, however, I started to realize that it just felt wrong. I felt like a hypocrite saying that I stood for gender equality but then let guys flip the bill when I went on a date.
We realize that we are critiquing cultural standards, or the “status quo,” as some people see it. If this offends you, then please spare us the hate mail and just don’t read our blog. No one is forcing you to. We created this blog to be a space where we can vent and be completely raw/unfiltered. We realize it probably will offend people. We are not trying to be politically correct or cater to making everyone happy and comfortable. Our goal has been and always will be to spark conversation and question cultural standards. We, as individuals and as a society, are constantly changing, questioning, and evolving. We do not claim to be “right” or “accurate” about anything, especially because everyone out there has had their own unique experiences that have made them exactly who they are and has shaped their worldview in a beautiful, unique way.
abi & em